No rose-tinted glasses
I talk about the hard parts too — the waiting, the loss of control, the moments the process stops. Anyone who hears only the happy ending sets out without what they need.
Speaking
Surrogacy, parenthood, and everything nobody tells you
From someone who went through the process himself, and has guided hundreds of others through it.
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- 12 yearsof speaking, since 2014
- 2 languagesEnglish and Hebrew
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Why these talks are different
Having lived the surrogacy and gay parenthood journey first hand, I made it my purpose to share the story and the knowledge with others. I am always glad to talk about my own journey, about the surrogacy process in general, and about what parenthood looks like for LGBTQ+ families.
A personal story, not a deck
My partner and I built our family through surrogacy in the US. Our twin girls were born in Portland, and everything I describe went through me before it reached a slide.
Years in the field
Since 2014 I have been guiding intended parents through the process, in recent years as director of patient relations at Ivy Fertility. More than 1,500 families, each of which taught me something.
Tools, not only inspiration
Every talk sends people away with something usable: questions to ask, things to check, decisions worth making early rather than late.
Three ways to work together
Talks can be given in English or Hebrew, in person or remotely. The format follows your audience and the time you have.
A talk
A full talk with slides, built around the subjects that matter most to your audience. Suited to a conference, a community evening or a session inside a company.
Panel or moderated conversation
Taking part in a panel, or a moderated conversation with questions from the floor. This works well when the audience is already inside the process and arrives with questions of its own.
Built together
Most of my talks are built in conversation with the host. You tell me who the audience is and what you want them to leave with, and we assemble the content from the subjects below.
Who I speak to
- Professional conferences
- Companies and organisations
- Events for intended parents
- Communities at home and abroad
- Medical teams
- Parents of LGBTQ+ children
- Schools and public bodies
The subjects
These are the building blocks. A talk is assembled from several of them — we choose together what goes in, based on the audience, the time you have, and what you want people to leave with. Sometimes that is five subjects in an hour, sometimes one in depth.
Growing up LGBTQ+ and dreaming of parenthood: identity and the closets nobody mentions
On growing up, on coming out to parents, and on the other closets we all carry — at work, in illness, in identity. Surrogacy is a closet of its own: when to tell, whom, and how much.
You leave with: An understanding that identity is not one moment but a set of circles, and language to talk about them.
Surrogacy: a rollercoaster, not a fairy tale
What a surrogacy journey actually is — two years, dozens of people involved, and a great deal of time in which you are not in control. The financial side, the medical side, and the considerations nobody raises at the start.
You leave with: Calibrated expectations, and an honest picture of the road.
The map of the journey, and choosing who walks it with you
The ten stages from first step to the flight home, and how to choose a clinic, an agency and the other providers — what really separates them, and where couples and single parents diverge.
You leave with: A list of questions to put to every provider before signing.
Your surrogate and your egg donor
The match, the expectations to settle in advance, the relationship across the pregnancy, her family, and the goodbye after the birth. Alongside it: how an egg donor is chosen, and why she is not the mother.
You leave with: How to build a relationship that lasts two years and ends well for both sides.
Religion, tradition and parenthood
Conversion, Jewish egg donors, what is settled and what remains open with the rabbinate, and how acceptance inside a family shifts once there are children.
You leave with: What is worth settling in advance, and what can be left open.
Your relationship and your family
What a long emotional process does to a couple, how roles get divided in a family with no ready-made template, what to do with the questions from people around you, and why I believe in no secrets. And single parenthood: that it can be done, and how.
You leave with: The conversations worth having before the birth rather than after.
Speaking around the world
Conferences, community events, sessions inside companies and with medical teams — in Israel, Australia and the United States.
My story has been covered in the Israeli and international press — features, interviews and panels on surrogacy and gay parenthood.
See the press pagePlanning a conference or a community event?
Tell me who the audience is and what you want them to leave with, and we will build something meaningful together. I am glad to reach new audiences and to keep raising awareness of surrogacy and LGBTQ+ parenthood.