Your family
Siblings, a second journey, school, and the people around you.
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Bonding with your baby when the bump is thousands of kilometers away
Ultrasounds on video, songs from home waiting at birth, and small milestones — the lovely ways to be there without being there.
When your child asks about the donor
Curiosity migrates over the years from the surrogate to the donor — and it's completely normal. What to answer at every age, what to keep from day one, and the truth about anonymity.
A sibling journey — when and how to bring it up with your surrogate
Want another child with the same surrogate? When to raise it (not in the delivery room), how to phrase it without pressure, and why today's "no" isn't the end of the story.
Navigating Kindergarten as Gay Parents: Tips for a Smooth Transition
Starting kindergarten or preschool is a big step, and as gay parents, there are some unique aspects to consider. Here are some tips to help
The Joys and Challenges of Traveling as a Gay Family
Traveling as a family is always an adventure, but when you're a gay family, it comes with its own unique set of experiences and challenges.
Jet-Setting with Kids: A Gay Dad's Survival Guide
אם אתם מתכוננים לטיסה הראשונה עם הקטנים, אני יודע שזה יכול להרגיש קצת מאיים. אבל תאמינו לי – זה לא רק אפשרי, זה גם יכול להיות ממש כיף.
Welcoming a New Sibling Through Surrogacy: Tips for Gay Dads
If you're about to welcome a new addition to your family via surrogacy, big congratulations are in order! This is an exciting time, but it c
Your Relationship During the Journey – How Not to Let Surrogacy Swallow You
A surrogacy journey is one of the biggest tests a relationship can face. Four lessons we learned the hard way – including the one sentence that defuses fights.
What Do You Tell Your Child? Building Their Birth Story From Day One
When do you tell your child they were born via surrogacy? From day one. How to build their birth story right, at every age.
What Do You Tell People at Work? A Guide to Hallway Conversations About Surrogacy
"So when is your wife due?" – how to handle workplace questions, what to share with whom, and three levels of answers for nosy colleagues.
Do we have to get married as part of the process?
The answer is no. But it is important to understand that there may be implications to not being married.
Children’s savings plan
When you return home with children who were born through a surrogacy process, and wants to take care for their future with saving accounts or plans for their future - it’s important that you…
Changing or merging surnames
With heterosexual couples, it’s very easy. Traditionally, the majority of couples take the husband’s surname after the wedding.
Round 2 without an agency?
You made it through the first pregnancy, and you had a baby or maybe even twins. Congratulations! A month, one year, two years have gone by (I’ve even seen 6!) and you’re ready for another child.
Do children who are born in the United States get a social security number?
Some of the children born through surrogacy will be born in the United States, where they receive American citizenship because they were born on American soil.
Lack of a mother figure for the children?
Let’s first differentiate, because it’s important: lack of a female figure or lack of a mother figure? It’s not the same thing.
What will the children call us? How will they tell us apart?
This question preoccupied me long before the birth. The funny thing is that I never thought about it again once the girls were born.
Handling your spouse’s parents
When you decide to expand the family with your spouse, your spouse’s parents become part of your family. This is what’s called the extended family.
Contact with the surrogate after the birth - is it recommended or not?
The relationship with the surrogate is undoubtedly one of the most sensitive and personal issues in the surrogacy process.