Your surrogate
Matching, the relationship, boundaries and the delivery room.
24 articles
Your surrogate's insurance — the cost line most worth understanding early
An existing covering policy versus a dedicated one, exclusion reviews, the newborn's insurance and the NICU scenario — the line that creates the truly big cost gaps.
Bonding with your baby when the bump is thousands of kilometers away
Ultrasounds on video, songs from home waiting at birth, and small milestones — the lovely ways to be there without being there.
You are the parents — parental authority without steamrolling your surrogate
You are allowed to say no. How to hold full parental authority — respectfully, without guilt, and without harming the bond with the woman carrying your child.
What she's going through — the hormones of a surrogacy pregnancy, and why you should know them
She answered briefly and your imagination is already running? Before you analyze every emoji — what the hormones do, what's just a busy week, and how to support her well from afar.
A sibling journey — when and how to bring it up with your surrogate
Want another child with the same surrogate? When to raise it (not in the delivery room), how to phrase it without pressure, and why today's "no" isn't the end of the story.
Gay Dads' Guide to Being in the Delivery Room with Your Surrogate
Due date is coming closer, and if you're about to join your surrogate in the delivery room, you’re probably feeling a mix of excitement and
Surrogate Health Insurance in 2026 – What Changed in the Market and What You Must Check Today
Surrogacy exclusions, rising prices and one critical enrollment window – the 2026 insurance update, and three questions demanding written answers.
Vaccinations – During Pregnancy and for Your Newborn in the U.S.: What Differs From Israel and What to Agree in Advance
What a newborn gets at a U.S. hospital by default, how the vaccine schedules differ, and what to put in the birth plan.
Your Surrogate Asks for Something Not in the Contract – Between Generosity and Boundaries
"I hate to ask, but..." – the message that arrives in almost every journey. When to say yes, how to say no, and why it all goes through escrow.
When Your Surrogate Fails Screening – The Restart You Didn't Plan For
The match is cancelled because she didn't pass medical screening? One of the most common scenarios nobody prepares you for – and what to do next.
The Match Meeting – The Questions, the Mistakes, and What You're Really Looking For
"You have a match! Video call on Tuesday" – cue the panic. Why it's more first date than job interview, and what you're actually checking for.
Texas Meets Tel Aviv – Cultural Gaps With Your Surrogate and How They Become an Advantage
She's from Texas, you're from Tel Aviv – and now two years of the most intimate partnership there is. Navigating religion, politics, humor and Israeli directness.
Who Posts What? Social Media Boundaries in a Surrogacy Journey
Scrolling Facebook and seeing your baby's ultrasound in a public post? The 20-minute conversation that prevents one of the most common crises.
Why Matching With a Surrogate Takes So Long – and What Actually Shortens the Wait
"We signed with the agency eight months ago and still no match. Is that normal?" – if I had a dollar for every time I've been asked this... So let's talk honestly about the most frustrating wait of the journey: the wait for a surrogate.
Your Birth Plan
A birth plan is essentially your "calming pill" for delivery day.
Almost everything you wanted to know about medical insurance for the surrogate
Medical insurance! These two words will intimidate anyone trying to understand insurance in the United States.
The Guide to Common Acronyms & Terms
What surprised me most in my journey wasn't seeing "how surrogacy really works" — it was discovering the medical processes happening "behind the scenes".
Pumping milk from the surrogate or infant formula after the birth
First of all, it’s important to remember that the surrogate will not always be able to pump milk for you.
Gifts for your surrogate and egg donor — what to send, when, and how much
Your relationship with your surrogate is going to be long and meaningful, and it will stretch across every holiday and occasion in the year.
A surrogate who is also the egg donor
In the vast majority of modern surrogacy processes, the surrogate will not be the egg donor, and she will not share genetics with the baby.
An egg donor and a surrogate - why both and what are the differences?
In the vast majority of cases, there will be two different main figures in the surrogacy process:
A friend as your surrogate or egg donor — is it a good idea?
This is one of the questions I get most often, in two versions: "we have a friend willing to donate an egg", and "we have a friend who wants to be our surrogate".
The support of the surrogate’s family
From my personal experience, and from my experience with many other peoples’ processes, the surrogate’s support system is one of the most important things for a smooth and serene pregnancy, where…
Contact with the surrogate after the birth - is it recommended or not?
The relationship with the surrogate is undoubtedly one of the most sensitive and personal issues in the surrogacy process.