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The waiting, the worry, your relationship, and what you tell everyone else.
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Welcoming a New Sibling Through Surrogacy: Tips for Gay Dads
If you're about to welcome a new addition to your family via surrogacy, big congratulations are in order! This is an exciting time, but it c
Intended Parent Anxiety – Surviving a Pregnancy Happening 10,000 km Away
Everyone looks after the surrogate – but who looks after you? On intended-parent anxiety, and the three things that actually help.
When the Pregnancy Doesn't Hold – On Loss in a Surrogacy Journey, and the Way Forward
On failed transfers and pregnancy loss – the grief you're allowed to feel, the one message to send your surrogate, and the way forward.
Your Surrogate Asks for Something Not in the Contract – Between Generosity and Boundaries
"I hate to ask, but..." – the message that arrives in almost every journey. When to say yes, how to say no, and why it all goes through escrow.
Texas Meets Tel Aviv – Cultural Gaps With Your Surrogate and How They Become an Advantage
She's from Texas, you're from Tel Aviv – and now two years of the most intimate partnership there is. Navigating religion, politics, humor and Israeli directness.
Who Posts What? Social Media Boundaries in a Surrogacy Journey
Scrolling Facebook and seeing your baby's ultrasound in a public post? The 20-minute conversation that prevents one of the most common crises.
Your Relationship During the Journey – How Not to Let Surrogacy Swallow You
A surrogacy journey is one of the biggest tests a relationship can face. Four lessons we learned the hard way – including the one sentence that defuses fights.
Single Parent Surrogacy in the U.S. – What's Actually Different?
"I'm on my own. Is this even possible?" Yes. What's different in a single parent's journey, and why you should never fly to the birth alone.
What Do You Tell Your Child? Building Their Birth Story From Day One
When do you tell your child they were born via surrogacy? From day one. How to build their birth story right, at every age.
What Do You Tell People at Work? A Guide to Hallway Conversations About Surrogacy
"So when is your wife due?" – how to handle workplace questions, what to share with whom, and three levels of answers for nosy colleagues.
Why Matching With a Surrogate Takes So Long – and What Actually Shortens the Wait
"We signed with the agency eight months ago and still no match. Is that normal?" – if I had a dollar for every time I've been asked this... So let's talk honestly about the most frustrating wait of the journey: the wait for a surrogate.
Gifts for your surrogate and egg donor — what to send, when, and how much
Your relationship with your surrogate is going to be long and meaningful, and it will stretch across every holiday and occasion in the year.
The workplace and flying to the birth
The surrogacy process is a proper pregnancy, one that you prepare for and for the flight back when it’s over.
Living with HIV and surrogacy
A good friend of mine lives with HIV. One of the first things that he had to cope with at the age of 25 when he found out, was the realization that he would never be a father.
Handling your spouse’s parents
When you decide to expand the family with your spouse, your spouse’s parents become part of your family. This is what’s called the extended family.
How many times during the process do you have to fly to the United States?
The answer varies from 1 visit (the birth), to 3 and more (which are optional).
Should I wait until I have a partner to start the a surrogacy process?
I think that this is a very personal question. I, for example, always knew that even if I wouldn’t be in a relationship I’d want to become a father.
Coparenting vs surrogacy
In general, there’s no right or wrong answer on which route to take, surrogacy or co-parenting.